Exploration of Domination

The following scenario was sent to me recently from Trevor. We had already had a short discussion on the phone and Trevor now has forwarded me the fantasy session he wanted me to create. It is as follows:

TREVOR. This scenario seems quite unusual to me and I don't quite know where to begin. I am a 31 year old male and for some time I have been interested in trying B. & D. or S.& M. (I'm not really sure about the difference). I've done a bit of tying up and erotic torture with some past girlfriends but always as the dominant person never the submissive.

I think I should preface this by saying that this is the process for me of translating fantasy into some kind of reality. I'm not entirely sure it works like that, moreover it's difficult to specify details of the fantasy. I perceive you to be the style of woman I seek, you have the look, experience, position and demeanour. If you have no interest in my fantasy perhaps you could recommend another Mistress whom I should see. I will try to suggest roughly what I am looking for and leave further ideas to you.

The dominatrix. The woman I have in mind is probably 25 - 35 years old, fit (definitely not overweight) intelligent, articulate and confident of her surroundings and what she does. She needs to be in complete control. Naturally I have in mind someone who is physically attractive - the erotic nature of this kind of sexuality to me derives from manipulating, teasing and torturing me using my attraction as one of the key tools. Clearly if I am not attracted to the woman in the first place then this breaks down. If you are as attractive as your photographs depict then I doubt there will be a problem. I am suggesting a sexy, confident woman who looks good in what she is wearing.

Its hard to specify clothing. It should be leather, tight fitting, revealingly erotic (I'm not sure about the rules on this) and I guess I always imagined longish boots and a choker around the neck. Maybe gloves, I don't want to get too detailed here.

What. I want to be dominated by this woman. I want her to control me, tease me, play with my mind and push my physical pain barrier as far as it will go (maybe not that far). I'm not interested in being "spanked" like a naughty boy, not particularly acting like a dog or stuff like that. My fantasy involves a number of different themes: being restrained and both mind and body tortured, both on my genitals and with the discriminate use of whip and other equipment.

I would like to be restrained, both physically and emotionally. I imagine this would take the form of requiring to stay motionless while some act was performed on me, as well as the use of harnesses, cuffs, whatever to restrain me so I cannot move and then must endure what is delivered to me. Here both the helplessness and the erotic nature of the equipment itself enhances the moment.

I am interested in experiencing genital torture, experiencing the fine line between pleasure and pain and the erotic nature of being helpless while someone finds new and excruciating ways of inflicting controlled pain on my genitals (including nipples). The look of the equipment arouses me as much as the sensation anything from clamps to specially designed whips, even electricity or wax. I'm also aware this fantasy may not work well in reality. That's part of my decision to try this out.

Finally there is in theory some kind of sexual link with the Mistress. Again I'm not sure of the rules on this and to be honest it is not particularly related to intercourse, but there is some vague feeling that the session would need to end with some kind of emotional climax. I imagine this is pretty normal and am happy to take your expert advice.

I hope this gives some idea of what I am interested in. I think it goes without saying I'm a little nervous about this (which I'm sure is nothing new to you).