If you have never ventured into the world of
BDSM but would like to explore it this checklist may assist you
in deciding which areas may interest you.
Many people believe that it is necessary to
receive some form of pain to take part in a BDSM scene. Nothing
could be further from the truth. Whether you have a particular
fetish, a desire to dominate or submit, or an interest in experiencing
bondage and discipline, it is always better to have at least tried
it once than to be forever wondering.
If you intend engaging in a scene, whether
privately with a lover or partner, or in a commercial establishment
with a professional Mistress/submissive the following checklist
will assist you and your partner in exploring your particular
interests. The items on the first list below have been compiled with a novice in mind, and nothing has been suggested in it which I would consider to be inappropriate for a beginner. By all means use this as a means of introducing
yourself to your prospective BDSM partner whether you are indulging
in a private or commercial scene.
If you intend visiting Salon Kitty's and you
would like to email it to us prior to a visit by all means do
so.
You might like to print out this list and check
of the items that interest you.
Remember, you are always at liberty to use
a safe word. At Salon Kitty's we use the word "mercy"
for activities to cease. Mutual consent is paramount.
Checklist:
- Do you see yourself as the Dominant partner,
the person who has the position of control?
- Do you see yourself as the submissive partner,
the one who relinquishes control?
- Do you usually initiate sex with your partners?
- Are you interested in role play where you
and your partner take on a particular role and act out a fantasy?
- Does the idea of humiliation excite you?
- Are you interested in Cross Dressing?, and if yes, do you like to completely transform, i.e. dressing in a wig, full make up, underwear, feminine clothing and high heel shoes?
- .... or do you like to partly transform? i.e. just wear stockings,
panties, suspenders, and bra.
Following are some common interests:
- Anal stimulation
- Anal plugs
- Bondage
- Breast bondage
- Genital bondage
- Blindfolds
- Body worship
- Breast whipping.
- Cages (locked inside)
- Caning.
- Catheterization.
- Cock torture (light)
- Corsets
- Earplugs
- Enemas
- Exhibitionism
- Face slapping
- Fisting (anal)
- Fisting (vaginal)
- Foot worship.
- Forced masturbation
- Forced public
- Gags
- Gags (panties)
- Genital torture (light)
- Golden showers
- Hairbrush spanking.
- Hand relief.
- Head (giving)
- Head (receiving)
- High heel worship
- Hoods
- Hot wax
- Human toilet
- Humiliation
- Infantilism
- Interrogations
- Latex
- Leather restraints/clothes
- Massage giving
- Massage receiving
- Nipple tease
- Nipple clamps (light)
- nudity
- Oral sex
- Over-the-knee spanking
- Orgasm denial
- Orgasm control
- Pussy worship
- Rubber clothing (latex)
- Sensory deprivation
- Serving as foot stool
- Serving dressed as a maid.
- Spanking (bare bottom)
- Spitting
- Slutty clothing
- Strap-on-dildo (sucking)
- Strap-on-dildo (penetrated)
- Strap on bottom
- Strap on hands
- Suspension
- Verbal humiliation
- Whipping (soft cat)
- Whipping (heavy)
Here is a more detailed list: